Green is where the Heart Is for December 23rd, 2015

By / Green Is Where The Heart Is / Wednesday, 23 December 2015 05:00

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
~Dalai Lama

By Mo Linquist
Contributing Writer

It’s 5 days before Christmas and surprisingly, I feel almost ready for the celebration at the end of this week.  All but one out-of-town packages have been sent. 
The last of the cards go in the mail today.  The tree is up, decorated and joyfully bears wrapped presents under it.  The house has been decluttered in preparation for guests to arrive. My sewing machine is still abuzz but I don’t expect to be sewing into the wee hours of Christmas Eve like in Christmas’ past.
Randy and I both grew up in homes where parents had gotten divorced.  Sometimes holidays were both stressful and sad.  I remember the year my mom was in the hospital in traction for her back.  I was about ten years old.  They allowed me to go into her room and the sight of her on her lying on her back with her leg tethered towards the ceiling was nerve-racking.  I remember crying as I was lonely and missed my mother.  I wallowed in self-pity and wanted things to be like they used to be. My older brother and sister made sure I attended the Christmas Eve services at our church to keep as much normalcy as possible.
Eventually my thoughts refocused as I spent time with a paint by number ‘sparkle’ paint kit Santa had delivered.  Neighbors took me down to Monument Park to try out my new ice skates which thrilled me as I breathed in the cold, crispy air.  My sister helped me make fudge using my new kids’ cookbook.  I was happy to not be alone.  The holiday blues subsided for a bit.
I am generally a pretty optimistic and happy person.  I appreciate my husband, family, friends and community.  This year I am filled with compassion for those who may be alone during the holiday season.  I am especially aware of those who may be sad because a loved one is not with them anymore.  Separation just plain sucks and things will never be the comfortable way they used to be.  Is it trite to say, ‘Time does heal wounds?’ 
What I learned as a kid is that feeling sad is OK, for a time.  Crying is OK.  It will eventually subside. Even self-pity in small doses helps to move the emotions through.  The things that helped take my mind off of my sadness were using my creative talents like painting, sewing and cooking.  I also loved playing the piano.  To this day music, from the great Christmas Carols of old to George Winston piano music, soothes my soul. 
Going outside in nature also cures depression.  Getting off the sofa and walking outside, breathing in the negation ions of the fresh salt air, scientifically produces chemicals in the body similar to happy pills. 
If you know someone who is alone this season, stop in to say, ‘hello.’  Bring a gift of cookies or something small to get their mind refocused.  If we all just adopted one other person this season to say, ‘I care about you,’ we would be walking in the reason for the season. 
AND if you are the one who is alone, remember there may always be someone who is in worst condition than yourself.  Give of yourself.  ‘What can I give?’ you may ask.  Meditate on peace, love and compassion for this beautiful world we live in and Peace be with you.  Your thoughts and actions will create happiness.  xo mo
Kure Beach resident Mo Linquist, Master FSIA, Red Ribbon Professional of IFSG and allied ASID is a recognized expert on Pyramid Feng Shui. She is the “ PersonPlace” design consultant specializing in soft goods such as fabrics, window treatments, reupholstery, blinds, shutters, feng shui and green healthy living products.  Her design studio is located in the Artful Living Group building 112 Cape Fear Blvd, Carolina Beach, NC.   Linquist speaks nationally and holds regular workshops and accredited trainings on this ancient form of environmental psychology.
Helping clients create home and office spaces designed specifically to support their individual goals and intentions, Linquist uses cutting-edge techniques integrating science, 25 years of interior design experience and Feng Shui to balance, harmonize and create new patterns for success.
To learn more about her work or for a consultation, contact her at www.molinquist.com  FaceBook at Mo Linquist Living Solutions or call 910-216-0366 local or 330-904-3636 mobile.

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